How Do You Discern Good Guidance?

Once upon a time, there was a man who went into a pet shop with his wife. After many childless years, they decided they'd try adopting a pet first, to see if they have what it takes to adopt a child. As they entered into the pet shop, his wife noticed a very colorful parrot by the window. As she approached and exclaimed how beautiful the parrot was, shaking the cage in her excitement, the parrot shrieked, "Youuu ugly toad!!! Youuu ugly toad!!!" The surprised woman burst into tears, as her husband drew near to comfort her and shouted at the shopkeeper for keeping such a horrible animal in his shop.

The shopkeeper calmly walked over to the parrot and gently quieted it down, as the man kept shouting invectives at him. Finally, he turned around to face the man and coolly said, "Why are you letting a little parrot upset you both? He's a parrot -- what are his credentials to validly assess your wife's beauty?"

The wife stopped crying and the husband stopped shouting. Stunned, they looked at each other and hurriedly left the pet shop.

We are like the couple, too, in many areas of our lives, asking for "advice" from anyone who would care to listen and listening to them bring us down, especially if we're sharing our desires and dreams with them. Most would be quick to throw cold water over our passions, saying they care for us and would not want to see us hurt and disappointed. Naysayers would outrightly discourage us, especially if they haven't had their own desires and dreams fulfilled in their lives also.

But, why would you listen to them? Because they're available and in your comfort zone, like family and friends? Because they have a so-called PhD in whatever? Do you go to a medical doctor when your car breaks down? Of course not, you go to a good and well-recommended mechanic. Do you seek advice from a "financial planner" who themselves are heavily in debt and running broke? You shouldn't be, because the best proof is not in the words but in the actions. Do you seek love advice from your equally romantically-challenged girlfriends? What truly helpful and useful advice can they actually give you? Shouldn't you ask for advice instead from happily coupled couples? The point is: do yourself a big favor and unload a lot of unnecessary stress (and bad advice) by practicing a habit of only seeking truly Good Guidance.

These can be found from those who have successfully overcome the same struggle you're on. They usually are not your family nor friends, especially if they have no successful life experience to show for it. Research good books and material and find good mentors who exemplify the success you desire in the struggle you're currently on instead.

Don't speak of your troubles to just anyone, including in social media. Mindfully select only those who either are already in the first category above, or those who can do something about it. The rest are just parrots in your life. Worse, you when keep speaking of your troubles, you just invite like "trouble" energy into your lifespace and entrenches you in victim mentality. You create this energetic space in you and around you that say "Troubles", and you will only magnetize people who love to commiserate in your misery. Those who don't would feel repelled by your energy, but they could actually be the ones who are in a better position to help you.

Also, it's a waste of your precious energies. The same energies you use blaming and complaining can be more fruitfully used for researching creative solutions and praying about them, asking for Higher Wisdom! More than this, go within and be Still, and listen to your inner Guidance, that part of your spirit connected with God/The Universal Spirit. It is always a calm, loving voice or sense; it is never condemning, never rushed. It can also speak in the form of signs and synchronicities that resonate with you so. Resonance is always a #SoulCall sign.

This Inner Voice speaks its wisdom to us always, if we care to listen to and honor its Guidance. The more we do this, the more we experience the "rightness" of its Guidance, and the more we trust it and ourselves. Intuition is "in-tuition" -- instruction from within, after all.

Cultivating this requires regular times of Intentional Solitude, though, to separate your energies from the energies to of those around you. Elevation always requires some form of separation from old ways that do not serve your Highest Good. So, stop listening to the parrots in your life already, and level up your life!

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