When You Decide You're Worth More

The moment you decide you’re not taking crumbs and sh*t anymore — whether it’s in a relationship, in a job situation, or any other life situation — these are what happens next.

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1. Backlash

Expect backlash from people who have been accustomed to treating you in the old ways. How dare you suddenly change the script they’ve been accustomed to playing?

You’re supposed to be the victim, the bullied, the one who’s underpaid and overworked, the one who always gets the short end of the stick.

How. Dare. You.

Hold your ground. You’re leveling up now. You can see it, but they don’t. Of course, they’d fight back. You’re taking them out of their comfort zones, too.

2. Falling apart, falling out

Relationships and situations are falling apart. Of course, they will. The old relationships and situations were held together by a different energy.

You’ve changed your belief about your higher, truer worth. You’ve decided you won’t allow less than you deserve anymore. You’ve changed your energy.

So, relationships and situations held together in the old energy will naturally and necessarily fall apart to give space to the new energy that you are.

Some people will decide they can’t nor won’t take the new energy in, nor go with you in the new energy you’re inviting them to. You will have falling-outs with them. They will fall away from your life. Or, you will decide to walk away.

Keep holding your ground, standing in your newfound integrity now. Hold on. Better things are coming.

3. The Magic of the Vacuum

Then, after the noisy falling-outs and the painful goodbyes, there will suddenly be … Silence.

The Silence of a vacuum, of the old being cleared away while the new is still coming. This is a mysterious, mystical time. The empty space is calling in the new.

Furniture is being rearranged in your life, even when you can’t see them yet.

This is that part where you’ve planted the seed of your new belief in your own higher value. Let the seed sink deep underground as it grows into a seedling. Trust that you are being taken care of. Surrender to the process.

Tend to yourself. Nourish yourself by following your Joys. Stay true and keep believing and trusting that more wonderful things are coming.

Go inward. Nurture your soul by Abiding in Stillness, soaking in Nature, meditating, praying, journaling, eating healthier, and engaging in exercise or physical activities you love. Don’t talk and share too much with others who will likely not understand. Conserve your energies.

Hold space for your Good. Magic is afoot.

4. New tribe, new environment

New people will come into your life. New opportunities will be offered. You will find yourself in new environments. They all reflect your new sense of self-valuing — all while you will still probably be dealing with closing out the old relationships and situations. It can get messy and disorderly if you didn’t know this is as it should be.

Keep holding your ground as you say “Yes” to the new, while saying “No” to the old.

Soon, you’ll find your footing again in this new life unfolding.

You’re birthing your more authentic You. Be patient and compassionate with yourself. The birth canal necessarily contracts to help the baby move from the old comfort zone of the uterus into the vaginal opening now, out into a new world different from the world of the womb.

This is a sacred, holy time.

Stay true. Stay gold.