What if your every problem is an invitation to your upgrade?

What if every challenge you are facing right now is just a signal for you to level up your mindset, your motivation, and your methods?

Obviously, something in your previous and current ways of seeing and doing is not working -- this is why you're facing that problem. So, what if, instead of tightening up in anxiety and fear about the problem facing you and blaming other people, you breathe slowly and deeply instead until you find your Still, quiet place, and ask your self -- "What is this current situation inviting me to?"

Examine your mindset. "What do I believe about this situation? How do I see my self in this situation? Do the existing facts support it? Are there other ways of seeing this situation that I can also believe?" Then, journal your answers. Write freely, don't edit. The first thing that comes up is usually your most honest soul answer.

Examine your motivation. "Why am I in this situation? What inner need is met in me by being in this situation? Can this need be filled in some other, healthier, ways?" Journal about this, too. You will likely be surprised at what your inner self reveals to you.

Examine your methods. "What did I contribute -- by commission or omission -- to bring about this situation? How can I at least change the way I've been contributing to this situation?" Journal this, also, and look at your brainstormed list of how you can change how you've been contributing -- because how you decide to respond and act is always within your control. You might not be able to change other people's mindset and actions, but you are always free to change yours. I have been using this practice since I woke up to the toxicity and sham of a "marriage" I found my self in after 9 years of being married, more than two decades ago. For the first 9 years, I numbed myself to it, and focused on raising my three very young children and creating happy experiences for them instead, as much as I could. But, after my first international travel abroad on a brief scholarship, in a country that doesn't speak very good English, I had to learn how to navigate by my intuitive senses to communicate with the natives. Looking back now, I must've shifted from predominantly left-brain/logical thinking mode to right-brain/creative and intuitive thinking mode the whole time I was in that country. I reconnected with my previously silenced soul and learned to listen to it and honor it at last.

I started asking myself these questions and more, talking to my self in my journal. By the time I flew home on Sept. 11, 2001, The Day the World Changed, my world inside had changed, too. Sitting at the Charles de Gaulle airport on a 10-hour layover, not knowing what was happening on the other side of the world in New York -- I decided I did not want to be married anymore. Because it was a sham, because it was toxic, and because it was killing my spirit. I gingerly came to the recognition that I am worthy just as I am, and I deserved a better way of living. It required a major upgrade in my thinking, my motivation, and my methods, though. It required that I see my self not as a perpetual victim of a situation I mindlessly got into, but I actually blessed the situation for waking me up from my unconsciousness in playing by other people's "rules" and inviting me to rise up to my authenticity, find my voice, and handcraft my own life on my own terms at last.

I decided to leave my marriage after arriving home; it was just a matter of time as to when I would actually leave. I was not afraid anymore of what people would say or how I would practically take care of my self and my children. I was more concerned about how my children would grow up, letting them see how I let my self be treated so dishonorably and abusively. What would my children think about their mother and about their own worthiness? It became my higher, driving motivation. By this time, though, I was more in touch with my instincts and intuition, braver about expressing my true desires even if only in my journal at first. I was priming and strengthening myself inside for my own liberation.

I also started upgrading my methods. When before I would just quietly suffer in silence during conflict situations, I started speaking up for my self, while still respecting the other. I started setting and honoring my own boundaries. This "method upgrade", though, threatened some people in my life, especially the ex-spouse, who were used to the old toxic control-drama narratives and comfort zones we were living in. As I rose up in my own self-honoring, the toxicity, abuse, and even violence also escalated, so much so that it made me see more clearly the toxicity I was in and gave me the opportunity to finally just leave, two years before my logical "timetable"! I had grown strong enough in my intuition and faith that surely, if there is really a God out there who created me and loves me, He did not create me for this! I actually told God, "It's Your Time to show me Your stuff, if You're really God!"

So, I left, alone, with only four hundred pesos in my wallet. But, I was surrendered to a Higher Power in me and with me now. Practically, it hadn't been easy, but soulfully, I came truly, fully alive! And when your soul and spirit are healthy and strong, you draw wonderful, seemingly magical people, opportunities, and experiences who support you and elevate you in your journey as well! This, I have consistently learned over almost twenty years now.

It has been a looong but rich and beautiful, soul-excavation and soul-restoration adventure since then!

You see, when you are faced with outer-world problems, they are actually just indicators of inner-world disharmony and inauthenticity. For as long as you keep trying to fix the outer-world problem without checking and transforming inside, the problem will just keep repeating in cycles with the same people, or in patterns with different people. So, I learned to always go within and check, whatever challenge I am faced with, and this major #DiosaWays Lesson has stood me in good stead since then. It has not only helped me positively address and transcend challenges, it has raised me up to a level of consciousness, power and sovereignty in my own life now that has set me in a much better, happier, more peaceful, joyful, harmonious, and abundant place at last!

I hope this sharing not only inspires you, but also motivates you to take stock and ask those starter questions of yourself as well, and journal them too. The bigger and seemingly overwhelming the problem (problems?) you're currently facing, the bigger and grander your opportunity for an upgrade!

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